This is a RANT more than anything!!!!
I find it so damn funny that certain people try to judge you based on the changes you'd made for yourself; changes to become a better person. Those so-called friends that judged me, are the same individuals that were once supportive of me in my journey. I guess what I am trying to say is: people aren't always who they seem.
The reason for me bringing this up is: Prior to my journey, my friends had expressed their feelings about the leather community -- some thought that it is all about having sex with each other, and, not be safe about it (referred to as "RAW-DOGING"). My reaction was ugh! Others reaction was: "Do what makes you happy". I was also warned that this journey to self-discovery will consume most of my time, so I may not be around as much.
As time progressed, I started to make some changes within myself (as it was expected); I started to feel amazing about it and feel like the changes were a part of me all along. To some of my friends "this change happened overnight". Others stated that Onyx and my partner were changing me into someone they didn't know. All this while some of my friends started to understand why the changes were necessary, and they were truly happy for me.
My reaction to this is: First of all dismiss me with that bullshit! How can you call yourself a friend, while being nothing but a "Negative Nancy"? Secondly, I don't quite understand how a friend can take such a position. As a friend I expect dialogue, review all of the info and then formulate a response. How can someone categorically be negative without seeking to understand. Through this I have realized that "people fear what they don't or don't want to understand".
Those people that do not make an effort to learn or understand, are not meant to be in my life. More generally, I can summarize it bey saying: "Some people ARE ONLY MEANT TO BE IN YOU LIFE FOR A SEASON."
